So this is just the first part of a series I put together on the subject of forgiveness. It’s something that many people struggle with, no matter what age. Simply my point of view on forgiving yourself, friends, family, and others people in your life — and how learning how to forgive can make you happier in the long run.
Lesson #1 – Forgiving Yourself
I’m not going to act like I know everything about forgiveness because I definitely don’t. I’m not going to pretend like I understand all types of pain that warrant or don’t warrant forgiveness either. However, I do know a bit about coping. I know about resilience. I know about growth. I know about strength. Everyone has their own experiences, but I really believe that if you want to be able to forgive others, you must be able to forgive yourself first. Of course, while forgiving…
There is a phrase that I love to say; it’s one of my platitudes. “When your life is in crisis, you find out who your friends are.” In 2006 and 2007 I had the biggest scare of my life. What was it? My wife was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer, and it turned my life upside down. It had a more profound meaning for me because I was a child raised by two parents who both had cancer and my Dad beat his first cancer at the age of 24. In a future blog posting, I’ll post my Father’s backstory, and I know it will inspire you as it has thousands of others throughout the world.
The point is after the diagnosis I watched as a lot of my family, friends and business partners ran for the hills. Out of over 3,800 contacts in my Rolodex, my best friend of 40 years and his wife showed up to partner with me and my Mrs. to get her well. On August 25, 2017, we celebrated the 10th Anniversary of my wife being cancer free. The truth is that what inspires me most about my Mrs. is that once the tumor was over, she didn’t want to ever talk about it again, it was like it never happened.
Now I fast forward to 2018. Wow, how time flies. Yes, I am a Father, I raised four children who are all grown now. My youngest daughter suffers from Aspergers and has taken more time, resources, love and compassion than the other three kids combined. In 1 percent to 3 percent of Asperger’s patients (yes it’s on the Autism scale), there are additional complications with an adult Asperger’s child, and I am going through it now.
The reason I share all of this with you is not for sympathy; I share it with you because I know that there are others out there who are suffering and for me, it has been this responsibility that has made me a better person, a better human and a better producer.
You are always welcome to write to me if you have a story to share, need feedback or a resource. My email is firstname.lastname@example.org (Yes you will have to copy and paste the text into your email program). <grin> Think of AfterHollywood.Online as my daily confessional as a producer because there is no one reading this but you!
Make it a great week and remember that you have strength in you that you have never even tapped yet and you know it’s true!
This video clips is 3 Minutes and 44 seconds long and is a must see.
Insights From The Other Side of the Microphone by Mitch Santell
My nature is to love people. My character is to observe people and let go of the need for blame, criticism, and judgment. Like yourself, I have a hard some with some personality types. Don’t we all?
A dear friend of mine that I met through the alternative media once said to me, “You cannot divorce love from truth, for if you do neither will continue to exist.”
He used to say that “Duty and Responsibility in life are not about happiness, it is about meeting your responsibilities and obligations.”
While I agree wholeheartedly with his point of view, I can openly tell you dear follower (thank you so much, and I know who you are), there is something that is the most significant love of them all.
There is no greater love in the world than Unconditional Love. Not everyone can experience this, not everyone has it in their soul and DNA, but for those of us who do, I thank God every day for the capacity to love another even through adversity.
This eight-minute clip of Jordan Peterson has some of the most profound advice that I have heard in a long time as it relates to marriage, family, divorce, commitment and being connected to your life’s purpose.
The thing that I know we all strive for as a human is a connection with another person. Like most people who have to connect via text, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest and other social media platforms, you realize it’s all a big show. Now, I am not saying social media is terrible, it is just an excellent tool for branding. It is not how you build intimacy!
As I look at the trends affecting our culture, I look at two bizarre and extreme movements among men here in America and throughout the world.
The first movement is the MGTOW movement. What is it? Men Going Their Own Way.
When I started looking deeper into the MGTOW movement, I realized that men are in a significant Sexodus from relationships.
Never before in history have relations between the sexes been so fraught with anxiety, animosity and misunderstanding. To radical feminists, who have been the driving force behind many tectonic societal shifts in recent decades, that’s a sign of success: they want to tear down the institutions and power structures that underpin society, never mind the fall-out. Nihilistic destruction is part of their road map.
But, for the rest of us, the sight of society breaking down, and ordinary men and women being driven into separate but equal misery, thanks to a small but highly organised group of agitators, is distressing. Particularly because, as increasing numbers of social observers are noticing, an entire generation of young people—mostly men—are being left behind in the wreckage of this social engineering project.
Social commentators, journalists, academics, scientists and young men themselves have all spotted the trend: among men of about 15 to 30 years old, ever-increasing numbers are checking out of society altogether, giving up on women, sex and relationships and retreating into pornography, sexual fetishes, chemical addictions, video games and, in some cases, boorish lad culture, all of which insulate them from a hostile, debilitating social environment created, some argue, by the modern feminist movement.
You can hardly blame them. Cruelly derided as man-children and crybabies for objecting to absurdly unfair conditions in college, bars, clubs and beyond, men are damned if they do and damned if they don’t: ridiculed as basement-dwellers for avoiding aggressive, demanding women with unrealistic expectations, or called rapists and misogynists merely for expressing sexual interest.
The History of M.G.T.O.W | Men Going Their Own Way
Men have gone their own way for centuries. Welcome to v.2018.
There has been much chatter about when “MGTOW” originated online as a recent social phenomenon, but one would really have to pull the camera back. Way back to Schopenhauer, Tesla, Beethoven, Galileo, or even Jesus Christ – if you’re up to arguing that.
MGTOW is not as old as fire, but it’s as old as a man’s first discovery of it.
Fire always exists – even when you can’t see it – and it only takes a spark or a bolt of lightning to ignite a blaze. MGTOW could be regarded as a reaction to recent cultural shifts, but the exact phrase “Men Going Their Own Way” can be found in print and newspaper clippings dating back to 1853, and spanning the 20th century.
If MGTOW is fire, then perhaps feminism is gasoline.
“For every action has an equal and opposite reaction”.
– Sir Isaac Newton’s 3rd Law of Motion
Survival and mating are the success model for animals in the wild. That’s the best they will ever do. But marriage and children are not the highest pinnacle of success for Men. Some 60% of men who ever lived on Earth never had children, so what did they dedicate their lives to?
For millennia, men have accomplished and contributed far greater miracles of science, discovery and human endeavor, and thanks to men like Orville and Wilbur Wright, man is the only mammal that can’t fly – that CAN fly. Man is also the only species that has the capability of deflecting an extinction-level event.