Further Observations On What & How We Can Be Happy by Mitch Santell
There are so many of us out there who have panic, anxiety, depression, PTSD, or something even more distressing.
The reason you feel this way is that you have you may be a bit “confused” with where our society is going. Believe me, I understand this, and it’s why I dumped Facebook.
Now, I never thought I would write a commentary about a Reality Talk Show, but I am going to do it. Why? As an illustration as to why most people either can’t commit, won’t commit or don’t even know what they stand for.
My Godmother was married 9 times. Her daughter, my 3rd cousin, was married 7 times. I have been married once as were my parents (my side of the family) and grandparents (my side of the family). My other cousin was divorced once after 7 years and remarried for a second marriage until his wife passed on from Cancer after 30 years.
This last season of The Bachelor with Hannah Brown was like no other that I ever saw. Now mind you, I got rid of cable TV in 1995 so to sign up for a “trial” of Hulu (a streaming service that competes with Netflix and HBO), I had to be intrigued.
It was amusing watching Hannah Brown consistently make bad decisions.
The dynamics of relationships between men and women have never been more complicated than they are now, and I’ll give you some basics to start with.
First, we are living in a society that is driven by social media and algorithms.
Second, most people don’t know what it was like to be alive without an iPhone, Samsung, or any brand of smartphone connected to their hip.
Third, everyone is connected, but no one is communicating.
Happiness Is This:
1). You simply make a decision to be happy.
2). You make a decision to work on yourself more instead of gossiping and blaming other people.
3). You let go of the need to worry about what other people think.
4). You let go of the labels.
5). You re-invent yourself by getting rid of people who don’t get you or don’t allow you to be You.
Authentic Is This:
1). Letting Go Of The Need To Be Right.
2.) Letting Go Of Any Assumptions Of How Things Are Going To Turn Out.
3). Letting Go Of Any Expectations.
Staying Grounded Is This:
1). Take off your socks and shoes twice a day and go barefoot on the grass or dirt.
2). Make sure that you are hydrating because most people never drink enough water.
3). Find passion in simple things that make your heart sing.
Why didn’t I write more about Hannah Brown’s screw-ups on The Bachelor?
Answer: Because that wasn’t the purpose of this blog posting….the posting was to get you happier by getting you to think about you.
Only You will know where life needs to take you and if you are like a lot of my followers and readers, you don’t live in the USA. For me? That has been the single most profound discovery that I have made about myself since returning from New Zealand in 2013.
What is that?
That everything I learned has affected me here in America and I can never go back to being that person that I was when I exited in June of 2013.
Now onto to something deeper I want you to think about……..
According To Alan Watts, Happiness Is NOT the Meaning of Life.
Listen to this audio and read the transcription below for the greater meaning.
Let’s suppose that you were able every night to dream any dream you wanted to dream.
And that you could, for example, have the power within one night to dream 75 years of time or any length of time you wanted to have.
And you would naturally as you began on this adventure of dreams, you would fulfill all your wishes, you would have every kind of pleasure.
And after several nights of 75 years of total pleasure each, you would say, Wow, that was pretty great. But now let’s, let’s have a surprise.
Let’s have a dream, which isn’t under control.
Well, something is going to happen to me that I don’t know what it’s going to be. And you will dig that and come out of that and say, Wow, that was a close shave, wasn’t it.
And then you will get more and more adventurous and you will make further and further Gamble’s as to what you would dream. And finally, you would dream where you are now you would dream the dream of living the life that you are actually living today.
That would be within the infinite multiplicity of choices you would have of playing that you weren’t God.
This means that you’re not victims of a scheme of things of a mechanical world, or of an autocratic God.
The life you’re living is what you put yourself into only you don’t admit it. Because you want to play the game that it’s happened to you.
Because if you play life on the supposition that you’re a helpless little puppet got involved. Or if you play it on the supposition that it’s a frightful, serious risk, and that we really ought to do something about it and so on. It’s a drag.
There’s no point in going on living unless we make the assumption that the situation of life is optimal. And it makes you realize you see how – how great things are. So in this idea that everybody is fundamentally the ultimate reality. Not God in a politically kingly sense, but God in the sense of being the self, that deep down basic, whatever there is, and you’re all that only you’re pretending you’re not.
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