The New Normal, No Romance

A Commentary On Living Life As a Human by Mitch Santell

One of the most important things that all humans need and desire is the human touch.

Taking away the ability to hug each other, hold the hand of a dying loved one, or share a loving glance is crucial the human health.

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Here is something that may help:

1. Just one hug a day keeps the doctor away

There are many incredible benefits of cuddling. A hug doesn’t only feel good – it’s good for you. A recent research has shown that regular hugs lower a person’s heart rate and blood pressure. This is not just a short-term effect. Rather, hugs make us healthier and happier in general. Loving platonic touch such as hugging has also been shown to strengthen the immune system, decrease stress, and reduce anxiety.

“Being hugged by a trusted person may act as an effective means of conveying support and increasing the frequency of hugs might be an effective means of reducing the deleterious effects of stress,” said Sheldon Cohen, a Carnegie Mellon University Professor of Psychology.

2. Physical contact strengthens team dynamics by building non-sexual intimacy.

When we touch someone appropriately – with a handshake, a high-five, or a pat on the back – we are sending them a non-verbal message of support and cooperation. The benefits of such gestures are as much personal, as they are economic.

3. Physical touch promotes trust and security.

Physical touch is so important. As stated above, the handshake has been widely accepted as a universal gesture of goodwill and openness. This is why many people determine someone’s trustworthiness by the quality of their handshake.

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Ray Williams explored this in his article: Why Have We Lost The Need For Physical Touch?. As he explains, “Neuroscientist Edmund Ross [found] that physical touch activates the brain’s orbitofrontal cortex, which is linked to feelings of reward and compassion. [Daniel] Keltner contends that ‘studies show that touch signals safety and trust, it soothes. It activates the body’s vagus nerve, which is intimately involved with our compassion response and a simple touch can trigger release of oxytocin, aka ‘the love hormone.’”

4. People who experience lots of physical contact are less violent.

It has been scientifically proven that children who do not experience enough loving physical affection are more prone to violence once they reach adulthood. Neuropsychologist James W. Prescott determined that violence in society often correlates with a lack of cultural emphasis on maternal bonding. When a child experiences loving touch, they learn to attach to others in a healthy way. As they grow, they are less likely to use touch in a hurtful or aggressive way. This early touch paves the way for emotional stability. The results are not only personal, but societal.

Our lack of non-sexual physical touch is a greater cultural problem than we think.

Mark Greene explored this phenomenon beautifully in his article for The Good Men Project titled Touch Isolation: How Homophobia Has Robbed All Men Of Touch. “This touch thing is so crucial,” he wrote. “I kiss and hug my son constantly. He sits with me and on me. I make a point of connecting with him physically whenever I greet him. The physical connection I have with him has been transformative in my life teaching me about my value as a human being and a father.”

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