Comments On Avoiding The Insane Asylum by Mitch Santell
There are people in this world who only thrive on drama. There is no way around it. It’s a ball busting exhausting situation to be in when you are zen looking at people who are losing their minds.
There is only one way to survive crazymakers, don’t become one yourself. There are three things I do to keep myself in check and they are:
1). Listen more than you talk. ~ God gave us two ears and one mouth. People you meet will tell you who they are and if you listen long enough you will know if they need to be in your life.
2). Know when to walk away. ~ This is something that only you will understand. How will you know when it’s time to walk away? Answer: Do a mental inventory check of how you feel when you are with that person. If you feel empowered and inspired, stay where you are. If you leave each dialogue with this person feeling bad about yourself, it is best to move on.
3). Love them enough to let them go. ~ You will help yourself and the other person most by releasing them.
A personal reflection: Regarding how I move in the world, I like to leave each person better than I found them. I work on myself, and I reflect on myself more than anything else.
Something that I found…
“It’s been so long since the last time I had a meaningful conversation with my friends, especially the ones I used to be close with. I’m not gonna play victim and act as if they treated me so bad and left me behind. In fact, I’ve been acting distant lately, and perhaps so have they. It’s safe to say that I have no faintest idea of how they’re doing if it’s not with the help of Instagram and Twitter. Social media indeed has strange way of making us feel like we still know each other’s life when in reality we barely do anymore.
To begin with, in the past several months I haven’t reached out to some of my friends and haven’t replied to their messages to the point where they might assume I ignored them on purpose. Maybe in a way I did, but not to all of them. Relax. I’m a horrible friend and seriously screwed up. I’m really sorry for that. I’m sorry that things haven’t been so great lately. I might come off as uncaring and selfish. I won’t be surprised if some of them no longer consider me as their friends. I get it. I can’t expect anyone to stick by me when I don’t do my best to keep in touch with them and give them the attention they deserve to get.”
“Friendships are fragile and require active maintenance, or they’ll die. I guess I’ve let it happen more than once. I started to read some articles about how to maintain a friendship so maybe I can still save the remaining friends that I think I still have. Keeping in touch is said to be the fundamental aspect of it, especially when it comes to maintaining a long lasting friendship. It sounds pretty doable though, but I don’t know how to do it. The people I’ve been best friends with until now are the kind of low maintenance friends, and I’m also a low maintenance friend. We don’t always talk to each other every day. We could go months without seeing each other. But we always give the reassurance that we still have each other.”
“As a trash texter with mild depression, it’s hard to imagine what I have to do to keep the friendship alive when the very basic thing like reaching out to friends, responding back to their messages, or making phone calls can feel so overwhelming sometimes. My close friends came from various background with various upbringing. Each of them carries different set of personality. I have friend whom I can do crazy things together, and I have friends whom I can sit for hours doing nothing but enjoying each other’s company while telling about our secrets. As much as they seem to be diametrically opposite, they’re very understanding towards my habit. They never call me out for being not fun when I’m not really up to do anything. That’s the kind of friends that I need in my 20s. I’m only two years away from quarter life crisis so I’m constantly trying to avoid the gravity to fall into it while preparing myself for the probability of experiencing it. No wonder I’m always exhausted.”
Read the rest here: http://bit.ly/2JD1HCx
Social – Disclaimer: In accordance with Title 17 U.S.C. Section 107, any copyrighted work in the Aladins Miracle Lamp is archived here under fair use without profit or payment to those who have expressed a prior interest in reviewing the included information for personal use, non-profit research and educational purposes only. Ref.
http://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/17/107.shtml. The opinions rendered are the authors and not necessarily those of this website.
#myweirdwaiter #jimmyfallon #mentalillness #crazypeople