Written by Mitch Santell
There is one thing that makes me absolutely cringe, and that is the celebrity magazines. Why? The headline is always the same, something like “After so many years of marriage so and so and so and so are breaking up! Can you believe it?”
When Heidi Klum and Seal split, it was a big shock even to Seal who continued to wear his wedding ring during the transition of his marriage and four children from a failed marriage.
For a brief dissertation from my observation of men and women, this is what I have discovered over the years:
One – Men marry women thinking they will stay the same and they never do. Women are always changing, and you are going to have to be flexible to keep yours around.
Two – Women marry men thinking that they can change them. Sorry ladies, men can mature and gain new knowledge but for the most part, you guessed it, we fellows throughout our life are the same person in our 60’s that we were in our 30’s.
Three – Once the sexual intimacy leaves the marriage, you will find out who you really married and decide if it’s working building a bridge to better communications.
Artistic Marriages End In Chaos
In a household with two artistic careers, there will always be a battle of “whose career is more important.” Over the past year more than ever before long-term celebrity couples are calling it quits. When I looked deeper into the story, it would appear that Heidi had an affair with her bodyguard. Okay, give me a break, things happen. You can’t be in a long-term marriage and not stray. There is substantial pressure being in the limelight.
What is the most common way to break up a marriage? An affair!
“While I didn’t expect anything better from him, I would think of thought that Heidi would have shown a little more class and at least waited until we separated first before deciding to fornicate with the help, as it were,” he told a TMZ camera crew.
It is a straightforward process. You meet someone, and you have a connection. You click, or you either don’t click. My take is that each couple needs to have a truckload of conversations and explore various situations.